Parenting during difficult times has seemed to be never ending as of late. We would like to believe that all parents have encountered moments where our kids have had meltdowns in the store, tantrums in restaurants, screaming competitions when not wanting to leave play areas, negative attitudes, back talk, criticizing us as parents when they can’t do what they want or simply just shutting down when they can’t get their way. Well these last couple of years have expanded the definition of “parenting during difficult times.” due to the pandemic which made our entire world stop and struggle to get back to whatever normal is.
With this new set of difficult times, we are not only seeing the behaviors mentioned above, we are seeing more isolation, acting out behaviors, high risk behaviors, and the list goes on and on. Not only are we struggling to mentally stay afloat, we are also struggling trying to figure out what is wrong with our kids as well as connect with them. When parents are faced with difficult times that are intensified by uncharted waters, they become helpless and missing signs that might prompt them to intervene when they need to.
Having some direction can definitely help the process. Below are a few tips that parents can keep in mind when difficult times arise. This is not an exhaustive list but some things that might help.
Tips for parenting through difficult times:
Be patient and calm
When approaching a child who is obviously upset, remain calm and show patience to gain an understanding of what the issue is according to their perception. If parents are calm and don’t show patience, they can shut down the communication lines and never be able to know what the issue is.
Be empathetic
Try to understand the issue from their standpoint and walk in their shoes. Encourage them to ask questions.
Listen with interrupting
There are times, as parents might have something we want to say right then or want to correct the child. If we interrupt, it can affect their thought process. So listen attentively so the child can know they are heard.
Check your emotions and practice self care
Consistently evaluating our emotions is important and making sure we are taking care of ourselves to decrease stress.
Be open and honest
It important to be honest but open with information, just making sure it is age appropriate.
Love/hug on your child
Comforting and showing/telling your child you love them during difficult times tell them they are safe and that you care about what is happening with them.
Being consistent
Keeping a schedule can provide a sense of predictability and comfort.
Giving praises and positive feedback
Praising them for talking about their feelings and being able to calm down is important. It shows them they did the right thing by being open and that you are proud of them.
Keeping these simple tips in mind, could help turn a difficult time to a pleasant one. Remember parenting is trial and error. Sometimes we need a little help to overcome some challenging times. If you need further assistance, Niyyah professionals are always here to help. WE are a phone call away.