Anxiety is difficult. It can turn our days into moments of panic, you can turn our nights into tossing and turning worried about tomorrow. It can wrap our brain in ruminating thoughts, it can have us thinking about the worst case scenario on the worst day at the worst time. Anxiety creates stress and stress creates anxiety. This endless loop can take over our day and make it so that we have a difficult time functioning. You can feel as though our only reprieve from this endless loop is a good night's rest. But does this stress in this anxiety impact us even while we sleep? Does stress cause bad dreams?
Sleep is our body's time to recharge, it is a time when we rest and recuperate. Rest is when we heal. If you sprain your ankle, the best way to heal it is to stay off it. This means that the best way to heal still at the muscles rest in a way it's to let them sleep. But just like how we can dream of a bug bite and we wake up and we realize that maybe your arm is being pinched. Our brain and our body are deeply connected. So what does this mean for stress and dreams? Well, it means that stress in our waking world can create stress in our sleeping world. Our body uses sleep to process things, to get things in order. If we are stressed during the day, maybe by bills or work assignments or school work, our brain is going to react to that stress even after we try to sleep. It is going to try to process that stress. Almost like a boat in the ocean, stress is the water. At times it may find a small hole to leak into the boat with, and other times it may feel like a huge tidal wave feels like it'll knock the boat over. We spend so much energy and time during the day to move the sails, adjust our heading, maybe even row a bit. But at night our boat is still on the water. Our brain is still trying to keep us afloat. In times of stress our brain is less able to rest. The waters are choppy and those bad dreams are the brain's attempt to navigate that choppy water while we're asleep.
So what do we do about these bad dreams and the stress? Well, that's where coping skills come in. That's where relaxation comes in. Stress is not easy if it was, it probably wouldn't be stressful. By doing things during the day that reduce our levels of stress our brain can navigate calmer waters at night. If you find yourself stressed during the day and impacted by bad dreams, try writing down all of your thoughts before bed. The act of writing them out can help us better organize our thoughts, it also gives us a place to put these thoughts before bed. Meaning that we don't necessarily have to take them to sleep with us. It's almost like writing out our thoughts allows us to put them away for the moment. Put them away for the night and detach from the stress even if it's just for a night.
If you or a loved one are struggling with stress, know that you are not alone. Stress unfortunately is one thing that makes us all human. It can be difficult to navigate stress but our therapists are here to help. Reach out today and schedule an appointment and maybe you'll find that you sleep a little better tonight.